Topic: Divorce / Marriage Breakdown

5 tips to help your child through a divorce or separation

Michelle Simpson
By Michelle Simpson, Associate

When parents decide to separate not only is this a stressful situation for the adults involved but also for the children in those families.

Separation may mean a child has to move away from their old home or  area that they are used to; a change of schools; the loss of friends as well as not seeing one parent on a regular basis.

All of this can have a big impact on children so here are our top 5 tips to help them through this difficult time.

1. Reassure them

Give them reassurance that the split isn’t their fault. They might believe that the reason you are separating is down to them and their behaviour.

2. Communicate

Maintain communication with the other parent. Learn to be business like in your discussions. This will help you focus on reaching agreement for the sake of the children rather  than your own arguments.

3. Protect them

Try to protect children from adult worries and responsibilities. They will find it difficult to understand what you and the other parent are going through. There are often arguments going on about financial issues which the children don’t need to be aware of.

4. See through their eyes

Consider things from the child’s point of view. They will already be faced with the prospect of one parent moving out of the family home and wondering what else may change. Try to keep to your usual routines and activities.

5.  Explain the situation

Children are entitled to know what is happening but need to be told in a child-friendly way. The level of information they need will depend on  age and understanding of the situation. They also need to know that they can ask questions and discuss their fears with you.

There will always be cases where due to the risk of sexual, physical or emotional abuse you cannot implement any or all of these strategies. However, in most cases these tips should help you and your children survive the pain of divorce or separation.

For more information contact Michelle Simpson on 01663 743344 or e-mail

Chafes Resolution Accredited Family Team

Chafes Hague Lambert Family Team

Pete Littlewood, Anthony Jones and Michelle Simpson from Chafes Hague Lambert Solicitors LLP family department are celebrating after they are now all resolution accredited specialists.

Resolution specialists are family solicitors who have submitted themselves to a rigorous assessment to demonstrate the highest levels of knowledge, practical application of the law and best practice.

This means that they are now proven experts in areas such as cohabitation, complex financial and property matters, children law, domestic violence and presenting cases in court.

Peter Littlewood, Partner at Chafes Hague Lambert comments : “We have all worked really hard to achieve this status and our clients can be assured that they are using expert solicitors to resolve their family problems”

Chafes advice on new high value divorce case ruling

Last week the Court of Appeal made a decision in divorce cases overturning over 18 years of legal precedent. In divorce cases under the new ruling, if a Husband or Wife finds information documentations showing their spouse was hiding assets, then such evidence was not to be allowed in Court. It is therefore more essential than ever that you make sure that you get the best legal advice possible before starting the divorce process.

At Chafes Hague Lambert Solicitors, our best advice would be that if you find any evidence that your spouse has hidden assets, you should inform your solicitor straight away so that they can ask the other parties solicitor to produce them. Do not take any papers that you do not own! The consequences of this are severe and you end up with sanctions against you and you will not be able to use the documents in Court.

Our advice in the first instance would always be to try and resolve the matter without the need for Court – this could save most parties lots of money, time and stress.

If you are considering a divorce or need some advice about a family situation contact Chafes Hague Lambert Family Department on 01615 531676 or e-mail: